Stressed Out? Here are Ways to Relieve It

Palm Tree Leaning over Beach

Yesterday I posed a this question on facebook: What’s your #1 stress reliever? These are the wonderful answers I received.  Hopefully you can find one or more of these to use when you are stressed out.

  • alone time in the woods
  • walking in nature
  • reading
  • walking meditation
  • sex
  • “Sitting on my rock in my horse pasture and doing “soft belly” breathing.”
  • deep breathing
  • prayer, meditation, reiki, nice bath, exercise (she had a lot of answers)
  • calling a friend
  • walking the beach
  • laughing
  • nature
  • hanging out with friends
  • swimming
  • yoga
  • sleep and alone time
  • taking a walk

How do YOU reduce your stress?

Donna Roberts, Certified Reiki Master and Life Coach


Writers, Shift Gears!

After months of thinking, writing a novel can drain you.  I’ve experienced this myself lately.  I can go at it for a few months – creating, researching, writing long hand – and then, poof, I’m done.  I have recently stepped away from my manuscript and am letting myself off the hook for a while.  The timing is kind of funny…it’s National Novel Writing Month but I can’t seem to write.  And it’s ok.

If you’re having mental fatigue from furiously forging words, go easy on yourself and let it go for a while.  Unless you’re under contract, there is no deadline except the one you place on yourself.

I have shifted gears to poetry for the time being.  It’s still writing but on a shorter more relaxed scale.  What do you like to write that gives you more immediate gratification than writing a novel?

 open book

How Do You Talk To Yourself?

How do you talk to yourself?  In your mind, do you keep things positive or does the critic easily step forward?  When something goes wrong do you wound yourself with thoughts such as ‘You’re so stupid’ or go easy on yourself and say ‘oh well, I’ll try again’.  How often does that self critic show up and put you down?

To get you out of the critical self talk, you must replace those negative words with positive ones.  I’m sure you’ve heard of affirmations.  These are short poignant phrases you say to yourself when the self judgment comes in.  Some affirmations simply don’t work.  Phrases like ‘I’m beautiful and strong’ may feel like you’re lying to yourself and you stop saying them. The kind that I think work the best are releasing affirmations.  They look something like this:

  • I release the need to be perfect.
  • I release the need to control things.

You can see how much better these work because they aren’t stating something that you feel is untrue.  Create your own releasing affirmation.  I release ______________________.  Say this to yourself at least 5 times a day.  Post sticky notes in your car, office, or type a reminder into your phone.  It works!

If you need more help with getting that critic out of your head, please reply to this email to set up your free no obligation consultation for life coaching.

Donna Roberts, Certified Life Coach

Stress Less

I’m trying to put my writing hat on today.  I haven’t blogged for a while due to two family members passing within 10 days of each other.  The family drama ensued and created enough stress to put a horse down.

One thing I know about stress is that you must do something to manage it or release it because it will take over your thoughts and your body.  So, how did I bring myself out of the mental chaos and calm my mind and body down?

  1. Meditate.
  2. Go for a walk.
  3. Get in the car and take a drive.  Sometimes our environment becomes part of our stress so get out of the house!
  4. Talk it out with a friend.
  5. Go to the beach (or somewhere in nature that soothes your soul).
  6. Take deep breaths.
  7. Exercise.
  8. Hang out with people that make you happy and lift you up.

These are just a few ideas on how I stressed less.  Try some and find out what works for you.

Have a joyful day!

Donna Roberts, Certified Life Coach